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For all of us married folk who have put in the time, a
question either comes to mind or has been asked of you, "How
do you keep the spark alive?" What an excellent question!
There are those who can write a book on the subject due to
such tremendous experiences and fantastic results from a
rich and beautiful marriage.
Now, don't confuse the word "sparks" with what is normally
seen when the words fly right along with the dishes and
anything else in arm's reach. It is a positive reference.
Yes, sparks are those moments when every cylinder is firing
in time and on cue. It is the moments when a husband and
wife say the same thing when answering their children. It is
when you can be anywhere and the two can embrace, hold
hands, give a gentle, tender kiss, and the spark ignites. I
will tell you that it does not naturally happen all of the
time. To achieve such a deep and passionate love for one
another will take a concerted effort and regular recognition
by both.
After 25 years of marriage, I know all too well the
struggles at so many levels to maintain a marriage and a
home within it can thrive. This does not mean that love was
always felt or expressed. Tough times were had, difficult
phases over the two and a half decades were experienced, but
the paycheck was worth it. Learning to grow together, love
together, learn about each other, and allow each other to
still be an individual all were vital for making this
marriage work.
The work done early in a marriage will be what builds the
treasure chest of freshness and spark-building moments to be
used later in life together. Take the opportunity to fill
your chest with the ability to be spontaneous, the strength
to see beyond the moment, the capacity to love
unconditionally, and the courage to take the lead when your
spouse cannot.
Here are some tips for you out there still working on
creating a better life of love and happiness. Say "I love
you!" often and mean it; look in your loved one's eyes and
say it with assurance and conviction. Smile as much as
possible; find reasons to laugh with each other as well as
at each other. Don't take yourself too seriously; it is an
absolute waste of time and it will hurt the one you love.
(Trust me on this one.) Live in the moment of happiness;
once it's gone, all you have is a memory. If you miss the
opportunity, you have missed the experience. Don't let the
trials of life come between you two; let the bond of love
and respect be the power to overcome. Live each moment, love
each other for who you are, laugh so hard it hurts, and grow
your passion for each other so nothing can come between you.
Have a wonderful life together!
About the Author: James Eberts contributes to the writings
for EverDreamWeb, an SEO and web development company. He is
an expert writer and researcher that we very much recommend
and serves such established clients as Raymond Lee Jewelers,
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